Some nights, it feels like your brain is playing a highlight reel of everything youβve ever done wrongβjust as youβre trying to fall asleep.
Sound familiar?
If your mind runs marathons the moment your head hits the pillow, you’re not alone. This blog will teach you how to relax your brain before bed using easy, science-backed techniques so you can finally fall asleep fasterβand stay asleep longer.
π°οΈ Step 1: Create a Wind-Down Window
Your brain doesnβt have an off switchβit has a dimmer.
Start dimming the lights on your thoughts 30 to 60 minutes before bed by doing calming activities:
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Read a comforting book (no thrillers)
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Take a warm shower
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Journal out your thoughts (donβt hold back)
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Listen to soft instrumental or ambient music
This wind-down window signals to your brain: “Hey, it’s time to chill.”
π΅ Step 2: Break Up with Screens (At Least for the Night)
Blue light messes with melatoninβthe hormone that tells your body it’s sleepy time.
Try to stop using your phone, TV, and laptop at least 45 minutes before bed.
βAlmost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutesβ¦ including you.β
β Anne Lamott
Instead of doom-scrolling, try:
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Light stretching
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Drawing or doodling
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Guided meditation with audio only (eyes closed)
π« Step 3: Breathe Like You Mean It
Breathing tells your nervous system whether itβs time to fight or to rest.
Try this simple 4-7-8 breathing technique:
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Inhale through your nose for 4 seconds
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Hold your breath for 7 seconds
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Exhale slowly through your mouth for 8 seconds
Do 3 rounds. Thatβs all. Feel your thoughts slow and your chest soften.
ποΈ Step 4: Anchor Your Mind to the Present
When your brain wonβt shut up, give it a job.
Try one of these:
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Count backwards from 100
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Name things in your room using your senses (what you see, hear, feel)
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Repeat a simple mantra like βI am safe. I am calm.β
These grounding tricks help you stay hereβnot back in that awkward conversation from 2019.
π§Έ Step 5: Build a Sleep-Friendly Bedroom
Your bedroom should feel like a cozy cocoon, not a chaotic mess. Here’s how:
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Keep it dark, quiet, and cool (18β20Β°C is ideal)
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Use a weighted blanket if it comforts you
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Diffuse calming scents like lavender or sandalwood
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Keep devices out of reach
Even small tweaksβlike softer lighting or a blackout curtainβcan make a huge difference.
βοΈ Final Thoughts
Relaxing your brain before bed isnβt about doing something big.
Itβs about doing something gentle.
Night after night, these tiny acts of self-care stack up and become your personal bedtime therapy.
Sleep isn’t something to conquerβitβs something to invite.



